Friday, October 29, 2010

What do Resistance and Halloween have in common?

Have you ever been to a haunted house for Halloween? There is quite a bit of anxiety just thinking about what you might experience. As you walk up, there is certainly some apprehension as you see the forbidding props at the entry. You enter and you don't know what is going to jump out at you as you turn a corner. And what are those crunchy things underneath your feet? Ewwww!

What's haunting you?
Resistance produces those same kinds of feelings; anxiety, apprehension, fear. One of my local heroes, KC Miller (Master Life Coach, Spiritual Guru, and Amazing Director of the awarding winning Southwest Institute of Healing Arts) told our Life Coaching class, "What you resist, persists." Sounds like a haunting to me :-). The kind of resistance she was talking about is that sort of stuff we put off taking care of for some reason or another (read excuse). It may be because we don't like confrontation (Who does, it's REALLY uncomfortable), or we are afraid (we think we're not good enough or that we will fail), or it's too hard (read this post).

The thing about haunted houses, is that when you keep moving you do get through them. Sure, you scream a little (or a lot) and then you have some fun experience to share with your friends and family. Sure, you got a little scared because you didn't know what was coming up next, but you walked through it and you got through it.

When you resist taking care of the things that are uncomfortable, it is sort of like walking through a haunted house. You never know when the consequences of inaction are going to crop up. But when you take action, when you make the call, clear up the misunderstanding, do the exercise, eat well, sleep well, etc. the haunting goes away...and you get through it. And then you have happy experiences to share with your friends and family.

So, what's haunting you?


  1. Hi I am now following you from 40 Follow.
    Your post is thought provoking and I do not have an answer right now. However, I will ponder for a while.
    Peace...Naila Moon

  2. Hmmm..I am scared of the kiddie haunted houses; hate confrontation of any kind...but I do keep going (usually running). I am in a really tough adult bullying me situation at the moment. I have forgiven her which they say takes her power away..but I am still MAD!!
    I am a new visitor and follower from Over 40!

  3. Interesting analogy. The thing about haunted houses with me? I avoid them like the plague! LOL Following you from over 40!

  4. Love this post! You hit the nail right on the head... you just have to keep going and then you get thru!
    Have a good week!

  5. Awesome post. Losing some momentum today and your post hit the right note.

  6. Thanks ladies for the comments. I love hearing your thoughts. You always give me something more to ponder. I love your honesty,your openness and willingness to share. Brilliant women you are...just brilliant! :-) I get something from your blogs each time I visit.